When talking couples, one of our favorites is, of course, our founder Ashley Merrill and her husband, Marc. As a dual-entrepreneur household with two kids, describing their days as simply busy would probably be an understatement. We got in bed with the two of them to chat about balancing it all, secret couple languages, and still making time to connect as a couple.
WHAT DO YOU THINK YOUR PARTNER'S FIRST IMPRESSION OF YOU WAS?
A: I think Marc thought that I was hardcore (I was marathon training at the time) and wholesome (I was always into cooking and domestic things).
M: I think she barely gave me a second thought after we met for the first time.
TRADE LIVES WITH EACH OTHER FOR ONE DAY...WHAT DO YOU THINK IT CONSISTS OF?
A: If I'm Marc... I wake up at 2am and tiptoe downstairs to play World of Warcraft. I come back to bed around 4:30am with the intention of going back to sleep (only actually happens 50% of the time). Ashley is in bed reading emails. I try to cuddle her but she is deeply engrossed in what she's doing so we touch toes and I grab my phone and start chatting with people on Warhammer threads, scroll Instagram or Twitter, and read random articles. Our son comes, already annoyed that we're going slow despite the fact that it's only 7am lol. If it's one of the days Ashley takes the kids, I go downstairs and get breakfast started for the kids. Vesper comes downstairs half asleep. The kids both complain about the breakfast I've made despite the fact that they usually picked it. Ashley comes down and we chat about our schedules, kiss, and she heads out. My days vary but lately, I might have a call or meeting with Riot or for one of my projects with Unite America or Represent Us. Squeeze in a workout of weights and maybe some light cardio. Around midday, Ashley's dad Dan comes over and we work on the treehouse that we are making in the backyard for the kids. In the evening I squeeze in some more video games before the kids eat dinner. As they finish up dinner, Ash and I chat for a few minutes while our nanny helps the kids get ready for bed. Often Ash is pretty "work mode" at this time of day and so we talk about what she's thinking through at the office. Around 7:15pm we head upstairs and read books to the kids. They go to sleep around 8pm and Ash and I usually spend the next hour in bed eating dinner, snuggling, and watching some kind of comedy (we love Bill Burr!) or series (Netflix's Explained is a total fave). Repeat.
M: I think we would both enjoy switching places. She is always in “go go go” mode and I enjoy being focused on making things happen. We wake up early, handle kid stuff, get out the door for work, do 1000 things in a day to keep Lunya moving, go to a boxing class at lunch, come back and crush more in the afternoon followed by heading home to be with the kids before they go to bed, then collapse exhausted and Netflix and chill before going to sleep.
WHAT'S ONE THING YOU HELD BACK FROM YOUR PARTNER IN THE EARLY STAGES?
A: I didn't so much hold back, but I changed a lot since the early days of the relationship. Early on I oriented my life much more around his schedule and was much more emotionally available. As our live's complexity has increased, I have existed in survival mode for so long that I have a lot less emotional vulnerability to give. I know that’s been really hard and I’m trying to work on finding some middle ground here.
M: My love of video games.
WHAT'S THE MOST EMBARRASSING HABIT YOU SHARE AS A COUPLE?
A: I trim his nose hairs.
M: We do lovey talk with our own silly vocabulary.
WHAT'S ONE THING PEOPLE WOULD BE SURPRISED TO KNOW ABOUT YOU AS A COUPLE?
A: I’m not a fan of video games.
M: We smash and wrestle around when we are loving.
WHAT LAHGO AND LUNYA PIECES ARE YOU WEARING ON THE BIG NIGHT IN?